What to Do When You’re Frozen by Overwhelm
Seeing ourselves and the world clearly requires a clarity of mind, something hard to locate when so much stands in the way.
Do Not Judge Yourself for Being Anxious
In the two previous pieces I’ve written about anxiety, I’ve discussed how to distinguish between fear and anxiety and offered some techniques for handling anxious moments.
What to Do When Anxiety Overwhelms You
The overwhelm of anxiety builds and builds — as one thought generates two more thoughts, four more spring from those.
Why Anxiety Is So Persuasive — and Pervasive
A while back, I asked readers to suggest subjects for me to explore in this column, and the immediate request was that I write about anxiety.
What Is Really Lost When You Compare Yourself to Others
It’s been some months since the time of New Year, new me! The energy that surrounds a New Year’s resolution is the conviction that, with fresh resolve, our lingering problems may just disappear.
How To Train Your Mind To Recognize the Love All Around You
Valentine’s Day has a perverse way of making some people feel not just unloved, but unworthy.
Self-Love Is an Adventure, Not a Destination
I have never believed that you must completely love yourself first before you can love another.
How to Hold Hope Lightly
When a new year dawns we want to feel hopeful. Although New Year’s Day is just another space on the calendar, we give it meaning by thinking it represents a chance to clear our heads and put behind us the troubles and struggles of the previous year.
Talking to Our Enemies
I was sitting in the living room of my friend’s house scanning the titles of his books, listening as he described his well-considered intentions to talk to those he disagreed with politically.
How To Talk With Your Relatives Over the Holidays
Are you dreading the holidays because you do not want to talk to your relatives about politics?
We Can’t Survive in a State of Constant Agitation
Since the election, many in my community have been caught up in a frenzy of politics.
Cheri Maples Showed Me How Blessed Our Lives Were, No Matter What Was Happening
My friend Cheri Maples died just a few weeks ago. I first met her in 2003, when I went to Madison, Wisconsin to give a talk.
Your Three Feet of Influence
When I ask myself or workshop attendees to name what each values most, people commonly say things like fairness, honesty, generosity, honor, and compassion.
Love Doesn’t Make Us Stupid — It Makes Us Brave
Many years ago, as my publisher and I were searching for a cover for an early book of mine, they sent me a depiction of a Van Gogh print.
A Standing Meditation for Self-Care
Looking back on what has moved me as a writer, I realized that I have often been inspired by the possibility of redeeming words — recapturing an original or overlooked meaning — thereby reclaiming the power of that concept.
The Gut-Wrenching Process of Befriending Ourselves
When it comes to addressing the question of technology’s impact on loneliness, it seems people are split.
How To Train Your Brain To See Beyond Us Versus Them
Have you ever noticed a tendency to regard different people, places, or things as “other,” as categorically different from yourself, irredeemably separate?
The Conscious Effort Real Love Requires
The title of Joan Didion’s collected non-fiction, We Tell Ourselves Stories in Order to Live, communicates immense wisdom about the way our brains work.
The Paths We Take Tumble Together
In the wake of the election results, I’ve noticed an unsurprising trend in my many conversations, in person and online — uncertainty, fear, anger. I know I’m not alone in this observation.
Letting Go of Fear To Face What’s Real
For many these days, anger comes from experiencing or bearing witness to injustice, systemic violence, oppression.